Sorry guys and girls, I have not been blogging for a while. Now that my exam is over, no more study for the year, I will make an effort to write again.
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a client, lets call her DB. On my way to work, I called DB to let her know that I was stucked in traffic and wonder if she is too. She asked me how she can change a certain aspect of her character. She is your typical introverts, not very assertive, feel guilty about most things and let everyone talk advantage of her.
I told her that she is who she is, she can never change who she is, a bit like a curry recipe. It is known to many that the Indians and thai add sugar to their curries to make it less spicy for their caucasian customers. Now, these sugary curry taste like curry, they smell like curry and off course, look like curry!
I told DB that she is essentially a curry and I am her sugar, taking my advice is like adding sugar to any curry, it neutralises her guilt, make her have the right amount of assertiveness (but not overly aggressive) and learn to say No to some people who asked for her help. She doesnt have to be mean or swing from her introvert self to an extravert, something she is not comfortable with.
The key here is to learn to be aware of who you are, recognises your strong points and weaknesses and moderate them with some advice (from counsellors, life coaches, self-help books, family members and friends), like the "moderating sugar" in curries.
Retain your authentic self, be yourself, be a refined version of you. Love yourself!
Not sure what you can do with this but sounds interesting, so I thought I write it down.
Take care!!
Happy Coach
